What mediation is
Family mediation is a confidential process where a trained mediator helps you and the other person discuss children, finances, or both. The mediator does not take sides and does not give legal advice. The aim is a workable agreement you both understand.
Why it is often required first
Before most family court applications, you are expected to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM), unless an exemption applies. A MIAM explains whether mediation could help and what the alternatives are.
What happens in mediation
- Each person usually has an initial assessment
- Joint sessions focus on issues one at a time
- Proposals can be written into a Memorandum of Understanding
- Financial disclosure may sit alongside mediation for money issues
When mediation may not be suitable
Mediation is not appropriate in every case — especially where there is domestic abuse, coercion, or a serious imbalance of power. Tell the mediator about safety concerns early so they can assess suitability and any shuttle or remote options.
After you reach agreement
Child arrangements can often stay as a parenting plan. Financial agreements usually need a solicitor to turn them into a consent order so they are legally binding and enforceable.
How to prepare
Bring a clear list of priorities, key dates, and documents (bank statements, school calendars, housing costs). Decide your non-negotiables versus areas where you can flex. Our mediation checklist resources can help you arrive organised.
Educational guidance only — not legal advice.